The Secrets Couples Keep

The article "The Secrets Couples Keep" by Marisa Cohen http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/couple-secrets-ll is about secrets that couples should tell their spouse and secrets that they shouldn't tell. In the article it says, "Yet even "small" deception can rock a relationship, and it can be hard to draw the line between what's harmless and what's not."

Most people in relationships keep secrets away from their spouse because they are scared of their reaction or they are afraid the relationship will end. Their are some secrets that are needed to be spilled in a relationship even iof you are afraid of the reaction. It's better to tell your spouse about something in your past instead of finding them out from other people. In the article it says, " If you want a relationship grounded in mutual trust, certain issues require full disclosure. ' If something has a chance of impacting your partner's future or his life with you, then he has a right to know about it," says Mira Kirshenbaum, a relationship expert and author of Is He Mr.Right?.

Secrets that are kept in the dark and then eventually comes in the light can affect you and your partner. The article states, " As many couples find out too late, when you keep a secret that profoundly affects your family, you face a double whammy when the secret eventually-- or inevitably--implodes." There is a limit to how much you need to tell your spouse. They need to know everything about you and your past, but they don't need to know 'everything'.

I think that keeping secrest in a relationship can affect you and your partner. I am in a relationship and there are a lot of secrets that i didn't tell him that he eventually found out. He wasn't so much as upset because he found out but because he found out from other people instead of me. Yes, there is a limit of things that you need to tell your spouse but then again there is really no limit. Like for instants if you have a jail record buto it was ex-sponged and your in a relationship, that is something you need to tell your partner. Just because it's ex-sponged doesn't mean that it will never be talked about, because eventually the conversation will come up.
   Why keep secrets? Is there anything that you feel your spouse doesn't need to know? If it is thats something you still should bring up because like i said, it will eventually be talked about.